Finding a "mother" or "father" - A difficult part of life as an AB/DL is finding a partner that will succesfuly, and voluntarilly fulfill their needs. This is extremely difficult for adult babies because they desire their partner to take on a caregiver role, which means acting as a "mommy" or "daddy" to them. It is hard because not many people truly desire to take care of their significant other in this way. Female AB/DLs are not necessarily willing to be mommies. Diaper lovers may end up taking on the role of the caregiver to an adult baby. In fact, 95% of mommies and daddies started as DLs. Also, some AB/DLs "switch" roles. Switching means sometimes they may act as the caregiver and other times as the baby.
Adult Babies and Diaper Girls
Diaper fetishes, diaper lovers (DLs), are often associated with paraphilic infantilism as both wear diapers, but the former does not role-play infant or childlike behavior, while that is the distinguishing characteristic of adult babies (ABs). The majority of diaper lovers do not engage in any kind of babyish activities and only solely are interested in diapers. However, in certain individuals it is possible for an overlap to occur, as one can view himself as neither exclusively an adult baby or a diaper lover. Hence adult babies and diaper lovers collectively referred to themselves as AB/DLs.